In recent news, Chris Brown was caught acting like Chris Brown, again, and I’m not surprised.
As you know I rarely say anything bad about anybody, minus Chris Brown, my uncle, and that horrible ex-boyfriend I bring up every once in a while. I don’t really hold grudges against people either…well okay, there are a few, and one of them happens to be Chris Brown. Though I do not know him or Rihanna personally, I cannot stand him for what he did to her. I never saw a black eye that bad in my life, the fact that it was on the face of a petite girl only amplifies its intensity. Though it’s not my place to judge, after his appearance at the Grammy’s this week, I find myself wondering if someone like him deserves forgiveness or should be doomed to a life of social purgatory.
A friend once told me a story about a time that they were waiting for their flight in an airport terminal. Airport terminals aren’t loud but they can be fairly noisy. As he was waiting for the plane to board, the room suddenly became completely silent: you could hear the cliched pin drop. Why did everyone stop talking? He wondered, and then he got his answer when he saw OJ Simpson walk by.
There is no doubt in my mind that this is the way OJ was greeted every time he went out in public- until he was incarcerated, again. Does Chris Brown deserve this kind of treatment? Again, it’s not for me to say, but I know if I came face to face with him, I certainly wouldn’t give him the time of day. I think the only way to judge a situation like his is to think about his character and if it has improved since he got caught beating Rihanna. I say got caught because it is pretty hard to believe, with the severity of her injuries, that this was the first time in his life that he slipped and lost control of his fists.
Since then, there was the time he appeared on Good Morning America last March and flew into a rage after an interview where Robin Roberts asked him about the infamous night. He stormed off to his dressing room where authorities later discovered a chair had been used to smash one of the room’s windows. Most recently, on Grammy night, he left a Tweet boasting about his Grammy win, “HATE ALL YOU WANT BECAUSE I GOT A GRAMMY NOW. That’s the ultimate Fuck Off!”
Why the rage? Clearly this man lacks maturity and needs more anger management classes. After speaking to many domestic violence experts I have learned that a very small percentage of abusers, like Brown, change. And by small I mean less than 1%. Few of these men have the capacity to transform or the desire to change into peaceful members of society.
I know someone who has been to his parties and has hung out with Brown on more than one occasion. She says he’s a cool guy and a generous host. I am not sure if she is saying this as a way of exonerating him (or herself for hanging out with him)- regardless all I have to say is- of course he is kind and wonderful! Abusers have to suck their future victims in somehow- and it certainly won’t work if they punch you in the face right off the bat, now would it? Exactly, case closed. It’s just a matter of time before he blows up again.
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